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Many people who come to my practice function well on the outside. They see themselves as  responsible, reflective, and performance-oriented. Accompanied by increased psychological pressure, exhaustion, or a feeling of being stuck. 
 
Systemic therapy assumes that these tensions rarely arise in isolation “within.” They arise where people in relationships, roles, and special situations often permanently perform, maintain, or regulate more than is good for them. The starting point is often an insight: 
 
“Things can't go on like this forever—but I don't know how and where to start.”
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For which life issues does individual counseling or therapy make sense? 
 
Typical occasions are phases of crisis-like change and transition. Examples include: 
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• Feeling less self-determined in certain areas of life and the difficult emotions and thoughts that accompany this. 

• Being challenged more than usual in dealing with difficult feelings such as fear, sadness, loneliness, or anger, especially in crises, grief, and loss. 

• The perception that distraction, withdrawal, or waiting does not bring improvement or is counterproductive. 

• A feeling that you are stuck in your professional/private life or cannot find your way forward. 

• Repetitive, unfavorable patterns of behavior and thinking that lead to conflicts with other people.

 

In my work, systemic therapy does not mean analyzing problems in isolation or uncritically optimizing solutions. It means making relationship patterns visible and allowing new scope for action to be experienced. This often affects three levels:

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1. The relationship with yourself

You have learned to regulate yourself strongly: functioning, reflecting, pulling yourself together. What is often lost in the process is resonance and a sense of what is truly harmonious or overwhelming inside. Systemic work helps to recognize this inner dynamic: Where does regulation and self-management become dominant or an uninterrupted duty?

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2. Your relationship with others

In partnerships, families, or work contexts, fixed roles often emerge: the responsible one, the reasonable one, the stable one. These roles ensure belonging—but often at the expense of closeness, liveliness, or clarity. Systemic therapy not only makes these patterns understandable, but also changeable, by allowing new forms of contact and communication to be experienced. Here, I work in an emotion- and attachment-oriented manner, among other things, to reveal the actual needs for security, closeness, and recognition beneath the surface of conflicts.

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3. The relationship with the world​

Professional demands, pressure to perform, care work, social expectations—all of these have an impact on relationships and on the self. Many clients experience exhaustion not because they are “too weak,” but because they have permanently adapted to systems that allow little room for breaks or resonance. Systemic therapy helps to see these external conditions more clearly, to differentiate oneself from them internally, and to deal with them more consciously—instead of automatically internalizing them. My systemic work is less about optimization, techniques, and correct behavior*.

I am more concerned with: resonance before regulation—thriving relationships instead of functioning at all costs.

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Read more about the integrative approach used here.

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You are also welcome to learn more about my counseling approach* in a non-binding informational meeting.

 

*Important note: Systemic counseling and therapy services are generally not equivalent to comprehensive psychotherapy (usually covered by statutory health insurance). For diagnostic clarification and acute treatment of complex clinical disorders such as severe depression, anxiety disorders, addiction, and trauma, combined treatment by a psychiatrist and a licensed psychotherapist is usually necessary. Systemic therapy alone is not a substitute for this. Please understand that in individual cases I may refer you to the appropriate services, e.g., if psychotherapeutic care is more urgent or comprehensive at the current time.

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Read more about the applied integrative approach

 

You are also welcome to learn more about my consulting approach* in a non-binding information meeting. 

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*Important note: A systemic counseling and therapy offer is not to be equated with comprehensive psychotherapy (covered by the german health insurance GKV). For diagnostic clarification and acute treatment of complex clinical disorders such as severe depression, anxiety disorders, addiction and trauma, combined treatment by a psychiatrist and licensed psychotherapist is usually necessary. An exclusively systemic therapy is no substitute for this. Please understand that in individual cases I refer to the appropriate places, e.g. if psychotherapeutic care is more urgent or more comprehensive at the current time. Please inform yourself here on my website about possible questions and occasions or contact me by phone/e-mail.